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The Precontemplative – Living in Denial — 5 Comments

  1. Well Pete, being an alcoholic and a daily pot smoker and drug abuser I can relate to everything in your post. For the last 5 years of my drinking and drugging I was blitzed everyday and went to work where I ran a man-eating table saw. I worked in a very conservative hospital setting where I wore sunglasses all day to keep people from seeing my condition in my eyes. I was afraid to let anyone know who I was. When I was finally beaten down enough, I confided in a couple of friends ( as if they didn’t already know) and started seeking help. I never had a legal problem even though I drove under the influence everyday and I never lost any fingers at work, but I did learn that asking for help was a prerequisite for sobriety.

  2. I’m glad you enjoyed the post, I just have one minor quibble. It wasn’t the asking for help, it was realizing that the benefits of using no longer outweighed the costs. Many addicts, in fact most, recover without asking anyone for help, but whether they do or not, all of them reach the cognitive decision, as you and I did, that it was no longer worth it. I stumbled into AA because I didn’t know there were alternatives, if I had, I would have gone elsewhere. I wasn’t powerless, I had already made the decision to quit, and I think anything would have worked.

  3. Precontempletive is also a definition atheists use for theists in denial … Ironic how the term fits all addictions, even those for failed epistemology..

    • I hadn’t heard the word used in that particular context, but it makes perfect sense. Whatever relieves cognitive dissonance….

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